10 ways to reduce fear.
Fear often interferes with our
ability to live more fulfilling lives. Fear is the critical
voice in our head saying: "You'll never succeed, so why try?".
Fear makes us listen to those voices and give up before we've
even started.
When we let fear rule our lives, we miss out
on opportunities and leads us to dismiss people and situations
that could help us reach our goals. Fear comes in different
guises and different forms - procrastination for example. Here
are 10 ways to reduce and break through fear.
1.Write down
your fears and how they affect your life.
2.Are there things
that you're holding back on, because you're frightened that you
are not good enough or of making changes generally? You have a
limited time on this earth. Deadlines are called deadlines for a
reason!
3.Listen to your self-talk. Many of us don't so much
talk to ourselves as make statements ie "I'll never be able to
get that job". This cuts your brain dead and gives it nothing to
work on. It's gone for a prolonged holiday!
4.Start asking
yourself questions. For example, ask "how can I make giving this
speech an enjoyable experience?". Now your brain has something
to do! Don't expect the answer straight away (but be aware of
opportunities and situations that provide clues) - but you're
going in the right direction.
Get into the habit of asking
yourself questions rather than making blanket (negative)
statements.
5. Redefine "mistakes" and learn from them.
Don't beat yourself up over mistakes you've made in the past and
being fearful of starting new relationships, jobs etc. That gets
you nowhere. Call a mistake an "opportunity for learning" and
seek the learning in every "mistake".
6. Seek the company of
supportive people and reduce contact with those who foster
feelings of negativity and have a "fearful" approach to life. >
> 7. Read books about people who have succeeded despite the
obstacles and look at the principles and qualities behind what
they did, their thinking and attitude. Closer to home - seek out
role models who represent what you want to become. Learn from
their approach and attitude.
8. Know that whatever quality
you like or admire in someone is lying dormant in you - waiting
to be developed. How else would you recognise it? Make a list of
the qualities you most admire in someone else and ask yourself
how they can be acknowledged and developed in you.
9. Your
past doesn't have to define your future. Be aware of your past
and willing to let go of it. Each day brings a new opportunity
to do and think about things differently.
10. List your
goals and the actions you need to take to achieve them every
day. Every time you do something that brings you a little closer
to achieving your goals, you will feel better about yourself and
reduce your unnecessary fears.
and . . . . . . . .
get
yourself a Coach! Or someone to (in)formally support and
encourage you to break through your fear and achieve your goals.
Julie Plenty is a Personal and Business Coach who specialises in creating
coaching programmes to help people raise their self-esteem.
She believes that too many people do not fulfill their
potential and lead less than fulfilling lives because of low
self-esteem.
To address this, she is currently developing
the KickStart Your Self-Esteem! self-coaching programme on which
will be available to download in early 2003.
Subscribe to
the free e-course "5 ways to not improve your self-esteem" and
you will get a discount on the KickStart Your Self-Esteem!
Programme. Send a blank e-mail to:
selfesteemecourse@spearhead.par32.com
About the author:
Julie Plenty is a Personal and Business Coach who specialises in
creating coaching programmes to help people raise their
self-esteem. Subscribe to the free e-course "5 ways to not
improve your self-esteem" and you will get a discount on the
KickStart Your Self-Esteem! Programme. Send a blank e-mail to:
selfesteemecourse@spearhead.par32.com
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